Jacqueline T.D. Huynh arrived in the United States in 1975 as a refugee from Vietnam at just eight years old with her family. All they had were the clothes on their back, freedom and the hope of an American dream, and a commitment to succeed. Today she's a number one Amazon selling author, a radio personality, keynote speaker, and trainer. She frequently speaks on the topic of leadership development, effective communication and family foundation. In part 1 of our interview, Jacqueline shared the four major fear blocks. Here, she digs into each one and offers solutions: real-life ways of overcoming fear in your career.
Overcoming Fear Block #1: Limiting Beliefs
Let’s take a look at the limiting belief: “You’ve got to work hard for your money." I think that's a very middle-class kind of belief. And Warren Buffett has a great quote. “If you are not making money while you're sleeping, you are going to be working until the day you die." That is how people who are wealthy think. They don't think of you got to work hard for your money. They want to work, make money while they're sleeping. And it's this thing that I call financial freedom. It's not about financial wealth. I don't think most people want financial wealth; they want financial freedom. And I was always afraid of that; I thought I couldn't have that. That's not me; we're Asian, we come from a country that are hard-working people. You must work hard for your money. We don't make money when we're sleeping, and when I overcame that, and I surrounded myself with the right mentor, with the right people in that mindset, I changed my life. They taught me how to make money while I'm sleeping. They taught me how to invest the right way, and that's one thing that's part of my portfolio as a leadership coach is how to lead your family to financial freedom. Because you can't just stay happy inside and then go to your checkbook every month and realize you don't have enough zeros there. You must be wealthy in your knowledge of all those things.
Overcoming Fear Block #2: Assumptions
A great way to overcome Assumptions is to ask yourself “What have I done before that's been successful?” Because a lot of times people will hold themselves back by saying “I've never been successful at anything." But think back. You graduated college; you graduated high school, you learned how to ride a bike. I mean something even that simple you can connect that. Remember the times when you have been successful, so you know you can do this. Use an open-ended question to open yourself up to what other possibilities could there possibly be. Try asking yourself: "What's the best scenario that could happen?"
Overcoming Fear Block #3: Interpretations
Call a really good friend, call a colleague, and say you know what? I'm looking at this report, and I just don't see how we can do it. Tell me what I'm not seeing. Get someone else's perspective so that you're not stuck in your interpretation.
Talking with others can be really helpful. There is a great quote from Jim Rohn, what he says is "you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." I always say have that entrepreneurial mindset. That's the mindset that overcomes fears. Entrepreneurs look at fears as an opportunity, innovation, and creation. Steve Jobs was about innovation. Elon Musk is about creation and opportunity. These are entrepreneurial mindsets that look at fear and say bring it on. And so, you want to have that kind of mindset. Surround yourself with people that have that mindset and they will support you, encourage you, and push you out of your fear and into growth.
Overcoming Fear Block #4: Gremlins
Gremlins are the little fears that, when we focus on them, grow large and out of control. To overcome them, first, you ask yourself questions. How much power does this voice have over me? What is it saying? Really listen because you can actually hear that voice saying it like I'm not good enough. Good enough at what? Challenge those statements when those gremlins come up.
I say 90% of success is mindset. I mean, I'm just saying that. I don't know if there are statistics out there. However, if you don't have your mind to it, you're not going to see the possibility, right? All these fear blocks are what's going to come up if you don't have the mindset. And I switched that, I worked with a lot of coaches, and I flipped that switch. And as soon as I did, it was amazing. It was like someone washed my windshield. It was always there, and then suddenly someone washed it, and I'm like, oh my God! And this person came into my life, and this person came in, and they started helping me and giving me advice and mentoring me. And this other person came in, and they were always there. I just couldn't see it because I had so much dirt on my windshield trying to drive and I was hitting walls because I couldn't see where I was going.
We hope you enjoyed our conversation with Jacqueline T.D. Huynh. All those fear blocks are critical, but we still really love that gremlin visual. How true is it that we often end up watering and growing these little itty-bitty fears into these things that control us and dictate so much of our lives when they really freaking shouldn't? It's not that important. How many of your biggest fears come true? And if you haven't tried Tim Ferriss' Fear Setting, go ahead and go do that exercise. You will not regret it.